In the past, live performers used to play pieces entitled ‘ode to joy’ or, ‘ode to sadness.’
These pieces of symphonic music-induced real emotions amongst listeners. The rooms used to be full of visible emotions such as courtship, anger, melancholy, etc.
However, music’s changed now. Musical clips can’t surely impact us or our relationships, right?
Our body and our minds respond to tempo, rhythmic changes, lyrical interpretations, and everything else we find in both modern and classical music.
Here’s how music affects us and our relationships:
The Single Phase
Long before you’re even in a relationship, your music taste can impact your chances of attracting members of the opposite sex.
For instance, sexually aggressive songs can make men feel misogynistic. Similarly, men-hating songs induce negative thoughts in female brains, especially the way they view the men in their lives.
Quite possibly one of the first dates or meetings you share with your partner will be marked with a soundtrack.
Rare moments of intimacy (e.g., the first flirtation or the first kiss) are registered in special regions of our brains.
These memories become ostensibly linked to whatever music we were listening to during that time.
That’s why many people have certain soundtracks or songs that remind them of the ‘happiest days.’
Music Impacts How You Appreciate Your Loved Ones
In a recent study, it was proven that music impacted the way men bought gifts for women. The experiment involved romantic music being played in a small flower shop.
Romantic music made men buy more flowers!
Similarly, any media with amorous content has been proven to enhance romantic thoughts.
These effects are shared by both sexes.
However, these music-driven effects aren’t always positive. For instance, people listening to antisocial music often demonstrate symptoms of psychopathy.
Our brains release dopamine whenever we listen to a favorite piece of music. A similar amount of dopamine is released during lovemaking.
Hence, music has always been linked with sexual attraction.
It is not uncommon for couples to have their ‘special song.’
Music can impact your family life.
When groups of people play music, they experience ‘group think’ or ‘synchronization.’ For instance, two members of the family may start dancing together automatically when they listen to tunes.
Boost Inter-Relationship Empathy
Music also evokes empathy. People are more likely to feel empathic responses towards their designated ‘music listening partners.’
Hence, when couples who’ve shared ‘listening experiences’ break up, they have to stop listening to their once favorite tracks.
Researchers have also stated that children who share musical experiences with their parents are more likely to have mature and empathetic familial relationships when they grow up.
I’ve seen so many couples get back stronger in a relationship because they were music lovers. One very good example is my friend who was asked to text his wife.
His marriage counselor told him ‘You know, Andrew, why not text her and pour out your emotions since you cannot bear the thought of talking to her on the phone’.
And that did the trick!
Taking the Edge Off
Too much time spent with the family can be stressful as well. The best solution for mom and dad looking for some free time? Music!
The relaxing effects of music are well-documented. Music-loving couples know how to uncomplicate personal debates and take the edge off.
Get You Through the Hard Times
Every relationship has its own share of struggles. When loud fights, arguments, or painkillers don’t do the job – your favorite song might be the best solution.
When people listen to music they love, their tolerance levels and emotional maturity improve.
They’re able to control their anxiety, look past the distractions triggered by the argument, and show empathy.
Couples who indulge in a workout together stay healthy and happy. Adding music to these dynamics only improves matters. Put on some energetic music (that you both like) and start strengthening your bodies and your love for each other!
Music and relationships are two of nature’s greatest gifts. No wonder they complement each other so well!